Wednesday, October 9, 2013

What We're Reading Wednesday: After



Linking up with Jessica for What We're Reading Wednesday.

Since we're right in the middle of the 40 Days for Life Campaign, I thought I would share a book that I read recently and really enjoyed.   It brings issues of unplanned teen pregnancy to the forefront.



After by Amy Efew is both heart-breaking and heart-warming.  While it talks about unplanned pregnancy, it actually isn't about abortion.  It is the story of a young, naive teen who gets pregnant and manages to hide that pregnancy from everyone...including and most importantly herself.  She lives totally in denial until one day she finds herself giving birth alone...and then without even thinking...disposing of the newborn in a trash bag.  When the baby is discovered (alive and safe) and Devon is discovered to be the mother, she is taken into juvenile custody and charges are filed against her.   This is her story...the story of what happens after she is taken into custody, the story of how she comes to terms with what she did, what lead up to that fateful day, and how she finally shows remorse and finds forgiveness.  It is an important book for anyone interested in the issues of newborn abandonment and murder. 

While it isn't a pro-life book, and I have no idea about the author's personal views on abortion, I feel it has a very pro-life message.  It seems only logical that a society which views the unborn as disposable, would view the newly born in the same way.   The issue of newborn abandonment is a real one...and one which is very likely linked to the issue of abortion.

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Monday, October 7, 2013

Blog in A Blink


Linking up with Equipping Catholic Families for Blog In A Blink.   Since I resurrected this old blog back in January, here are my 9 favorite posts from the last 9 months of blogging! 



Blogging has really meant a lot to me over the last few months.  I don't have lots of readers and I don't get tons of comments on each post, but I've really, really been enjoying the writing process and getting my thoughts out on paper electronic screen.  I've made some great new friends through blogging and the writing has helped me process everything that is going on in my life.  Even though this little blog isn't big or popular, it's MY blog...and I love it. I hope someday my kids will read back over my blog, smile and know that they were loved, that we are proud of them, and that my writing is for them. 













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Sunday, October 6, 2013

What I Wore Sunday: A Day of Rest...or is that Work?


Remember the sabbath day, to keep it holy. Six days you shall labor, and do all your work; but the seventh day is a sabbath to the Lord your God; in it you shall not do any work.9

That is the 3rd commandment. 

And Jesus said:

The sabbath was made for man, not man for the sabbath; so the Son of Man is lord even of the sabbath.91


This morning, before Mass I

  • fed/changed/dressed//bathed Elsa
  • made all the older kids take showers/baths and supervised hair washing for those who need it.
  • cleaned the bathrooms (try not to faint in shock, Mom). 
  • changed the cat's litter box

After Mass I

  • dished out ice cream for everyone
  • more changing diapers
  • feeding kids
  • gave a haircut

Before night falls on this Sunday I also will have

  • done some work at home
  • done some writing (hopefully)
  • made dinner
  • cleaned up after dinner
  • swept/mopped kitchen/bathroom floors
  • swept all other floors in the house
  • took care of kids/changed diapers/nursed baby/etc
  • done a load of laundry
  • printed out math sheets for this coming week. 
  • taken the girls on a walk


So, is that a day of rest?  For people who work outside the home, day of rest/work day seems to be pretty easy to distinguish.  You either go to work or you don't.  Simple, easy-peasy.  But, for those of who who work IN the home, it's a lot trickier.   In some ways, yes we did rest..as we don't do school (which is decidedly NOT restful and probably my biggest time/energy suck).   But, in some ways no...if I was better organised I could probably do the cleaning of the bathrooms, laundry, hair-cutting and litter box changing on Saturday.  But, I'm not better organized and yesterday I had other work to do (taking girls to Little Flowers, working at home, grocery shopping, and then we explored a new park and went hiking), plus dinner cooking, child care and all that jazz.

We do some things to make Sunday special.  We always go to Mass (obviously) and we always eat ice cream.  Seriously...we always eat ice cream, every Sunday after Mass. It's generally the ONLY day we eat ice cream (or other desserts) except for other feast days or special celebrations. But on Sunday, we Bentrups love our ice cream!

The catechism of the Catholic Church states:

2172 God's action is the model for human action. If God "rested and was refreshed" on the seventh day, man too ought to "rest" and should let others, especially the poor, "be refreshed."96 The sabbath brings everyday work to a halt and provides a respite. It is a day of protest against the servitude of work and the worship of money.97

2184 Just as God "rested on the seventh day from all his work which he had done,"121 human life has a rhythm of work and rest. the institution of the Lord's Day helps everyone enjoy adequate rest and leisure to cultivate their familial, cultural, social, and religious lives.122

2185 On Sundays and other holy days of obligation, the faithful are to refrain from engaging in work or activities that hinder the worship owed to God, the joy proper to the Lord's Day, the performance of the works of mercy, and the appropriate relaxation of mind and body.123 Family needs or important social service can legitimately excuse from the obligation of Sunday rest. the faithful should see to it that legitimate excuses do not lead to habits prejudicial to religion, family life, and health.

The charity of truth seeks holy leisure - the necessity of charity accepts just work.124

2186 Those Christians who have leisure should be mindful of their brethren who have the same needs and the same rights, yet cannot rest from work because of poverty and misery. Sunday is traditionally consecrated by Christian piety to good works and humble service of the sick, the infirm, and the elderly. Christians will also sanctify Sunday by devoting time and care to their families and relatives, often difficult to do on other days of the week. Sunday is a time for reflection, silence, cultivation of the mind, and meditation which furthers the growth of the Christian interior life.

Thankfully the catechism doesn't give us a Puritanical view of Sundays.  Obviously we need to care for our families, and I would hope that cleaning the bathrooms and cutting hair can fall into that category.  Yet, in the same sentence it talks about being careful of habits.  I will confess that I like to do "more" cleaning on a Sunday, as it gets the house in shape and prepared for the following school-week and having the house cleaner and more organized for Monday is important as during the school week I can really only get to basic, maintenance cleaning..not things like cleaning the bathrooms or mopping floors.  And, keep in mind, I'm no great housekeeper...when I talk about cleaning, I'm talking about keeping things to hygienic minimums...not house beautiful

So, how do YOU celebrate Sunday.  What do you do to make it a day of rest or make it a special day.  Are they are chores/jobs you specifically don't do on that day.   I'm looking forward to reading about other people's Sundays.

One other thing we like to do for Sunday, is dress up for Mass.  So here is What I Wore Sunday




The dress is thrifted.  The skirt is from Shade clothing and the shoes were given to me. 

Elsa is wearing a pretty pink dress someone gave us.  She gets an A for Mass today. An A!  She slept for the first 30 minutes and spent the last 30 minutes sleepily sitting in Ben's arms.  It was only in the last 3 minutes that she started to get a bit rowdy (which bumped her down from an A+). 

Now, go see all the finer dressed ladies at Fine Linen and Purple.
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Friday, October 4, 2013

7 Unrelated and Somewhat Interesting Quick Takes Friday



1.

John:  Mom, you're the second nicest mom in the whole world.
Me: Thank you.  Who is the nicest mom?
John: Mary, Jesus' Mother.  She was the nicest, right?
Me: Yes, Mary was definitely nicer than me.  

2.

My kids BUILT a swing.  They are awesome...they totally designed it and built it all on their own.  We are so NOT handy building-things people....which makes it double impressive in my book. And, it actually works works...and is safe enough I feel comfortable letting them swing on it.



When they swing, they put a towel over the sticks to make it more comfortable. 

3.

Do you know where the hell is Matt?  

  Matt Harding is a 30-something year old guy that travels around the world and takes videos of himself dancing (rather badly I might add) with different people in all different places.   They are heartwarming and funny and just cool all at the same time.   You should check it out!

4.  

This baby is incredibly smart.  Yes, I am unashamedly biased. 

yogurt mustache


Seriously...in last week's post on dealing with 1-year olds, in the comments  Laura asked about toddlers and throwing food.  So, I decided to actually try my own advice with my own toddler.  And surprisingly it works. Yes, I actually give advice without trying it.  Sad, I know.  Just goes to show you how big a discrepancy there can be between my parenting philosophy and my actual parenting practice. 
Anyway,  Elsa had been throwing food off her high chair tray when she didn't want it, so one day I told her that we don't throw food, showed her how to take food off her tray and put it on the table or give it back to me and "helped" her clean up food off the floor and put it on the table.  I only did this ONE time.  Well, ever since then, if you give her something she doesn't want on her tray, she takes it off and puts it on the table, instead of throwing it on the floor.  I was happily surprised that at the tender age of only 12 months, that she was able to learn that so quickly.
5.

Heidi is doing a class at coop called Pen Pal Ministry where they write letters to kids in Africa. 

Actual text from Heidi's letter. 

My mom is the best cook in the whole world.  Seriously, we always give her an A+.

Very nice huh....but what's even more funny is that she is obviously using the royal we, because I'm pretty sure no one else in this family is always giving my cooking an A+ .   Usually they complain about it.  At least I have one loyal fan.  I think I'll keep her. 

6.

Ben and I are really into  watching the Netflix TV show...Alias...circa 2001 (we watch everything a minimum of 10 years after it is produced.)  


If you like mysteries/spy movies/action/drama you might like this show.   It's about a CIA agent working undercover.  We've really enjoying watching it together...the only problem is that it's addictive because every episode ends on a cliffhanger.  It's weird...it's like every episode is really two halves of an episode and the other half of each episode is in either the next or the previous episode.  Okay..so that probably doesn't make any sense, unless you've watched it, and then it would make perfect sense.

7.

Thanks to everyone who offered prayers from my post on Sunday.  Please know that they are very, very much appreciated!  And thanks to everyone who gave me advice on freelance writing...again, it is very, very much appreciated!

Now, go see Jen for more Quick Takes. 

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Thursday, October 3, 2013

Theme Thursday: Three Secrets



So, I asked my kids what they would take a picture of to show the word secret, because quite frankly I was stumped.   And, this is what they said.

Heidi:

I'd take a picture of the deep dark woods.  The deep dark woods holds lots of secrets. 


So what are the secrets of this swampy woods?

Greta:

I'd take a picture of a secret mailbox.  A mailbox holds lots of secrets, with secret letters.



What's in that letter?  I do not know..it is a secret.   So, if you happen to be our very kind friend who sent us a BIG box of clothes yesterday..THANK YOU.  This letter is for you, from Greta...but what it says, I do not know as she sealed and addressed it all secret-like. 

John:

I'd take a picture of our secret attic.  Maybe there is a whole hidden hotel up there. 


There you have it....the trapdoor in the ceiling that leads to our attic (that we've never been in).  And, most likely there is a secret roach motel up there.  I'm just hoping/praying there are no secret mouse or rat hotels up there. 

So, those are our secret pictures. 
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Tuesday, October 1, 2013

Homeschooling: Order and Chaos

Linking up with Kendra at Catholic All Year for What Does Your Homeschooling Day Look Like?

Our homeschooling day can be summed up in two words: order and chaos. 

The End.

Okay, okay...I know you all want to read more than that.  So, here is a bit more detail about what our homeschooling day looks like. 

This year, I have kids in 6th grade, 3rd grade and Kindergarten. 

We generally start school between 9:30-10:00 AM.  Yes, I know that's late.  And, no, we don't usually finish by lunch time. In fact, depending on if we take a lunch break or not, we sometimes go far into the afternoon.  If we work through lunch, we usually finish by 2:30 or so.  If not, then it's usually more like 4:00-4:30PM.  

Generally every morning, I get up around 6:30-7:00 AM.  I could get up earlier, but if I do, then I find I'm falling asleep by 9:30 PM and I don't get ANY kid-free time by myself or with my husband.   So, I try really hard to sleep in until 6:45-7:00 so I am able to stay up later (10:30 instead of 9:30).  My sleep is almost always interrupted...either Elsa nursing or the cat meowing or the wind is blowing too hard (I'm a light sleeper), so I find that I need at least 8 hours in bed to feel well-rested. 

Anyway... I get up about 7:00 AM.  Then I take an hour to do my morning stuff.  Brush teeth, change the baby, throw in a load of laundry, feed the kids breakfast, check email, respond to email, check facebook, check a few blogs...you know, important stuff like that. 

Usually between 8:00-8:15, I start my exercise/work-out.  That lasts until around 8:45-9:00 AM.  Then I eat breakfast, take a shower, change clothes and get ready for the day. 

So, we start school between 9:30-10:00 AM.

We do math first, always, always, always, always, always, always.   Did I mention that we always do math first?  The reason for this is because if we only get to one subject a day, I want it to be math. In the words of the notorious Barbie doll, math is tough. I know, I know we don't want to be all stereotypical and have girls think math is tough..but it is for us.  It's our hardest subject...it takes the longest amount of time and I like to get the hardest subject out of the way first.  Plus, the girls are both super readers and writers and enjoy doing things like reading their science or history books and writing stories for fun, so I'm not as worried about those subjects at all...they would learn them on their own.  But no one has ever wanted to do math problems for fun. Never, ever, ever, so I make math a priority.  Actually, I take that back, Greta likes to write word problems for fun...but then Greta like to write everything and anything for fun.

Plus, we just switched math curriculum, and while I really like the new curriculum, it is working at a harder level than our old curriculum and it takes a bit longer.

So, that is what we do.  In our living room, we have two desks, a couch and a recliner chair.  I sit either at my desk or in the recliner chair and pretty much try to stay there so I'm available for help.  We call my seat the "help chair" and anyone who needs help, comes and sits next to me, and I help them.  Heidi and Greta start their math.  Greta (3rd grade) prefers to work in another room entirely...at the dining room table.  Heidi prefers to stay in the living room and work, she usually sits at the other desk  If they need help, they come to  me.   After they finish one page, they bring it to me to check. I don't let them go onto the next page until I check the first page.  I learned this the hard way...we were having way too many days where they would do 4 pages of math and get 50% wrong and we were just spending way too much time reteaching and correcting.  So...I make them bring me each page as it's done.  That way we can catch mistakes or misunderstandings early. 

In between helping the girls, I squeeze in doing school with John (K).   His most important subject is reading;/phonics, so I make that a priority with him and try to do that first. 

After we do math, we move onto the next subjects.  If we are going to be home all day, then I let them chose what order they do their next subjects in.  If we aren't, then I prioritize the subjects (usually by order of what we skipped the last time we didn't have a full day.  We pretty much do a full day on Mondays and Wednesdays and do partial days on Tuesdays, Thursdays and Fridays.  This is because we have outside activities on those days. So for example, if we don't do history on Tuesday, we be sure to do it on Thursday.  Fridays, we just do math.   Of course this schedule is flexible because things like field trips or other activities come up.

And, for the rest of the day, I basically sit in the 'help chair" and go back and forth between helping/instructing different kids and checking work.  Checking work actually takes a lot of time, I check all my kids work and make them correct EVERYTHING they get wrong.  EVERYTHING.  So ,while Heidi and Greta do most of their work independently, I do spend time with them going over mistakes. for most subjects.  Heidi checks her own Latin and I just do a cursory check on Science and their History is a lot of reading, so that often doesn't require checking.

Somehow it all works.  It may not be the most efficient way, as sometimes a kid is stuck waiting for the "help desk" to be available, but it works for us as I prefer to finish one subject completely before going onto the next.  My poor overloaded brain just can't handle too many things going on at once.   And, most of the time we do get it all done.  We also school straight through summer and I have no qualms about doing school on days that "regular" school is out if we have had a lot of field trips or other things that interfere with our regular schoolwork.  This gives us lots of leeway to get off schedule without falling too far behind.

Sometimes we take a lunch break and sometimes we work through lunch...it usually depends on what else I want to get accomplished that day.   If we do take a lunch break, it usually stretches out into 1.5 hours or so...so sometimes I like to keep the momentum going and just work through lunch. 

Now, onto the big looming question..the one that people ALWAYS ask me. ALWAYS. 

How do you do school with a baby/toddler around?

I usually reply with I don't know, but we do.  Usually she just plays around on the floor and is near us.  Sometimes she pesters us and cries and causes interruptions and disturbances, so it just takes longer but you do what you gotta do.  That's just homeschooling life with big kids and babies.  Usually if I can make her feel included somehow she is better, so I'll give her a pencil and paper and help her "write" and then she's happy that she was included and will go play by herself for a few minutes.   She doesn't take a long enough or regular enough naps for me to "count" on her napping or try to schedule school around her naps.   So, most of the time she is awake.   And, yes it is hard and there are plenty of days where I want to throw everyone on that big yellow school bus, (just kidding, actually we live within walking distance of the local school, so no big yellow buses come down our street) but there are also plenty of other days where everything goes smoothly and the baby is happy and most of their work is done correctly. 

There you have it...what our typical homeschooling day looks like.  I also do some work-at-home stuff too...you can read all about that in Woes of a Work At Home Mama, but because of homeschooling I mostly work on weekends. 


This is actually not what a typical homeschooling day looks like, as typically they don't sit at the table. 
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Sunday, September 29, 2013

What I Wore Sunday and A Prayer Request


So, we tried out a new church today.  It was passable....I still much, much prefer the church we had been driving to that is 30 minutes away...but....finances dictate that we save gas right now, so the closer church it is.  And, that leads me to my prayer request...we're having some financial difficulties...so if you could please pray for that, that would be great.   Thanks!

Also, I'm going to be starting to dip my feet into the world of freelance writing so prayers for that too please.  I've done some writing before...I completely wrote my website My Home Remedies and I have a few articles published on NaturalNews.com, but I kinda want to get out  of the alternative natural health writing business and get more into writing about Catholic, family issues.  And, I want to actually get paid (see...there's the financial difficulty thing again).  So...any prayers, tips, ideas or hints would be awesome.

So, here's what Elsa and I wore today.  Elsa gets a D for Mass Behavior.  We went to 10:00 AM and she didn't take a morning nap beforehand and didn't nap during Mass, which made for some pretty bad behavior. 


This is me and my old photographer, who complained one too many times and then got fired.  Of course, after giving the job to the next one in line, Heidi was all I'll do it, I want to do it, please let me take pictures, please, please.   Those kids...just can't figure them out.


And, here's a selfie my photographer too.  Cute, huh?


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