Tuesday, January 13, 2015

The Definitive Guide to Never Eating Out For Every Situation

Is one of your New Year's Resolutions to save money?  Are you looking to build up a savings account or get out of debt?

Have you decided to go on the never eat out plan as a way of saving money?

Well, we've pretty much been on the never eat out plan for the last several years, so I've learned a thing or two about never eating out. 

Although to be honest, when I say we never eat out, I mean we never eat out as a family. Or, more accurately, we never eat out as a family unless someone else is paying. I never turn down a free meal!  I also love to enjoy a mom's night out once in awhile...but eating out by myself is way cheaper than bringing the whole family out. And that's only a very occasional thing.

We've basically lived the last several years without take-out pizza or ice cream stores or fast food or coffee stops. No restaurants..not even Chick Fil A. 




So here is the Definitive Guide to Never Eating Out For Every Situation.

Situation 1: You're too tired or sick to cook.

Solution: Have a few super quick, super easy, ready, almost zero-prep time meals at the ready.  Keep a list of these meals handy and always keep those ingredients on hand.  Some of our ready-made meals include things like peanut butter sandwiches, smoothies, tossed salad with shredded cheese, nuts and olive oil, open-faced grilled cheese (in the oven so easier than standing over a stove), frozen veggies, healthy hot dogs, yogurt banana split (yogurt or cottage cheese between sliced banana with sunflower seeds, flax seeds, raisins, nuts or whatever other healthy toppings you like.)

Situation 2: You arrive home at 6:00 PM. 

Solution: Planning is key. Throw something in the crock pot in the morning. Or if you are only going to be gone for the 2-3 hours before dinner, throw a roast chicken in the oven.  Roast it low and slow and it will be hot and ready for you when you get home. Probably your house won't burn down.  At least mine never has.

However, sometimes we just forget to plan ahead.  So for those times..keep a list in your heady of quick and easy meals you can throw together in 20 minutes or less.  Things like pasta and sauce.  Mini-pizzas (made on English muffins).  Rice and beans.  Vegetables that are already washed/chopped and read to be quick roasted or sauteed. An omelet. Stuff that is quick and easy, yet still tasty and delicious. 

Again..always keep these ingredients on hand. The better you get at cooking, the easier it becomes to just "throw something together."

Situation 3: You aren't home during lunch or dinner or breakfast. 

Solution: Obviously the solution here is to bring food with you. And here's a secret...it's okay to eat "snacks" for a meal. Trail mix, cheese and an apple can make a perfectly acceptable meal. Or bring sandwiches. Bagels and cream cheese.  Hard boiled eggs.  Yogurt. Cheese. Fruit. Carrots. Peanut butter crackers. Peanut butter celery.  Peanut butter rice cake.   Again..you need to always keep these foods on hand so you can easily bring them with you. We've taken food to fairs, museums, zoos...all sorts of places.  It's always fine.

Situation 4: You're traveling.

This is probably the trickiest situation of all.   Because you're traveling.  And you want a break..and a warm meal. These are the times when you really have to plan ahead, bring some tasty snacks/meals with you and just keep driving. Unless you're too tired.  Then you probably should stop.  With travel, planning ahead really is key. But if you get in a pinch, you can always get off the interstate, find a grocery store and buy bread, peanut butter and jelly.  Still way cheaper than eating out.   You can usually even find things like gluten-free bread or other allergy-friendly items.

Situation 5: You want to celebrate. 

Solution:
Instead of stopping at the ice cream store, go to a grocery story and buy a half gallon of ice cream.  Or even a couple half-gallons.  Way cheaper and just as good.  If you want to be really fancy, buy chocolate sauce, whopped cream and all the fixings for sundaes. Still way cheaper. 


Situation 6: You just want the relaxing experience of eating out. 

Solution: Have the relaxing experience of eating in.  Use paper plates (just occasionally...I can't condone killing trees like that you know).  Buy treat food like convenience food or frozen pizza...it's still usually cheaper than eating out.  If it's warm outside, have a picnic.  No mess to clean up and who cares if the kids are loud.  

How often do you eat out?  Do you eat at home for financial or health reasons? Do you have any other suggestions or tips to add?
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Saturday, January 10, 2015

7 Things

1.  Is it spring yet?  The walls are closing in on us. Normally, I don't get cabin fever and I enjoy winter.  But, homeschooling in a super small house with big kids is really wearing.  No one can really get away from anyone else and it's super annoying.

2. Update on Heidi.  She finally got a referral to a Pediatric Infectious Disease specialist.  Really hoping this doctor can figure out what's wrong. She seems to swing back and forth between getting better and getting worse. 

3. Job searching.  Still looking.  Starting to consider different options and doing lots of research,

4. The kids all played in the Northeastern Indiana Scholastic Regional Chess Tournament Championship.  Heidi and John both won ALL their games and all three of them qualified to play in the state championships. So..yay!  I can't believe they are so smart. They definitely DO NOT get it from me.  

5.My camera is broken. Or maybe it just needs a new battery?  I'm not sure, but either way, it doesn't turn on.  So, that is why you get a blog post with no pictures.  That's my excuse anyway. 


6. This article.  Absolutely fascinating.  You should read it.


7. I installed a new comment system on my blog.  I'm hoping this will make it easier for me to reply to comments!  So...make a comment and try it out.  And thanks to Rosie and Erica who gave me the idea to switch to Intense Debate.


Linking up with Kelly for Quick Takes on a Saturday. 

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Thursday, January 8, 2015

Acceptance - When Life Doesn't Go As Planned


Last year I posted that apparently 2014 was not going to be a good year.  And guess what..it really wasn't.   Sure, none of the things I listed in THAT post happened.  And, there were a few bright spots..namely my little brother's wedding.  But otherwise, it wasn't a great year. We moved several states away.  We are dealing with underemployment/difficulty finding a job and to top it all off, my oldest child has some mysterious pain/illness the doctor can't figure out. 

This new year has been rough for us emotionally. As we turned the pages of the calendar, the last vestiges of hope drifted away. Hope that things were going to just work out.  Hope that my husband would find a good job and that we could settle down.  That hope is now gone.  Not sure what was so significant about the turning of the calendar other than the fact that as each significant date rolls past, a little bit of hope is chipped away. First it was October...he'll have a job by October.  October came and went.  Then November, then Christmas/New Year.   

So, my word of the year is acceptance. Acceptance that life is tough.  Acceptance that things just aren't working out, so we may have to make some changes...and not changes I want to make. Acceptance that we have to make some tough decisions and wait even more and take more risks. Acceptance that 2015 may be just as hard as 2014 was...or even harder.   Acceptance that we probably made some poor choices somewhere along the line...and now we have to figure out how next to proceed.   Acceptance that we may be called to do something we DON'T WANT TO DO. Acceptance that we may be called to accept new challenges or difficulties. 

Acceptance of God's will.  Because that is a hard thing to do. 

Monday, January 5, 2015

Dear Mom Whose Baby or Toddler Won't Fall Asleep Alone



Call me naive.  Call me clueless.  But it wasn't until I started being active on Facebook and reading blogs, that I started realizing just how differently our family does things when it comes to sleep. 

You see, I have absolutely no concept of babies or toddlers falling asleep alone.  

None.

Zero. 

Zilch.

Our kids have always fallen asleep with someone until they are around age 4.  It never really occurred to me to do things differently. 

Which is why I have been really surprised to read that other parents have to deal with things like their kids getting up in the middle of the night and wreaking havoc.  Or kids bouncing around in their room, staying up until late at night. Or having to use things like baby gates or door locks to keep kids in their room.

In fact, I think I finally figured out why a few bedrooms in houses we've lived in or visited had the lock on the outside of the door. I never understood that before. Truth be told, I still don't understand it. But we all do things differently and I can respect that different families have different needs.

We've never needed any of those things, because we've always stayed with our kids until they fall asleep.  Mostly that's nursing.   My babies have all nursed to sleep until they were 3-3.5.  But, that doesn't mean that I can NEVER leave them at night. I've been leaving Elsa at night occasionally since she turned one.  She just falls asleep with Daddy or big sister. 

And if they wake up in the middle of the night...well that's easy. Because it's no problem to lie in bed and nurse or cuddle once I'm already in bed.  
  
And after they are weaned, we just lay down with them until they fall asleep.  Or they fall asleep with an older sibling. But it's with someone.   Until they don't need that anymore and then they fall asleep on their own...which does happen eventually. 

It's generally been fairly painless and not as time-consuming as it might sound.

Yes, there have been times I've wished I didn't have to help them fall asleep. But mostly, I don't mind it.   I think it sets the stage for healthy sleep habits as they grow older. It makes sleep something they look forward to, instead of something they fight. 

Elsa asks for "nana, go night-night" or "nana-take nap" when she's tired.   Because falling asleep cuddled up with mommy is a nice way to fall asleep, don't you think?  And if mommy isn't there, then daddy will do...or big sister. 

And, yes she still sleeps with me, but she won't forever.  Probably by age 3, I'll move her to another room.  Because she'll be ready then.  Or I'll be ready then.  Not her own room...because we don't have enough rooms in the house.  But a room she can share with a sibling or two or three.

And probably for a few months after that, if she wakes up in the middle of the night, she'll crawl back into my bed.  And that's okay. Because one day she'll stop.  Truth be told, I can't even remember how old the older kids were when they stopped coming into my room in the middle of the right.  Maybe 4 or 5??  But they all stopped. Well, there was that one time when a certain someone read too many ghost stories at the library around Halloween. Ghost stories are now banned. 

Anyway, they all grow up and learn to sleep on their own.  It's just a matter of time. 

Maybe you feel the need to do things differently. That's okay.  I may not understand a different way, but I can respect that different families have different needs. I've never had 2 kids under 2.  I've never even had 2 kids under 2 and a half.  My closest spacing is 32 months...and it gets  further from there. Maybe we would have developed a different way of parenting if we had children spaced more closely together. But this is the way that works for us...the way that feels most right. 

Let me tell you a little secret.  I don't like crying.  In fact, I hate crying.  I hate hearing babies and kids cry.  Hate it, hate it, hate it.  I'll do almost anything to get them to stop. Yes, this does mean giving in. But guess what..it's okay to "give in" sometimes. It really is. And I would almost certainly rather take 15 minutes to nurse a baby to sleep than listen to them cry for 15 minutes. And all those little 15 minutes out of my life are really nothing. 

If you do things differently, I can respect that.

But if you do things in a similar way....I want you know that you won't be doing it forever.  That just because a baby can't fall sleep alone at 6 months, it doesn't mean that they won't be able to fall asleep alone at 6 years.  Because they totally will. I promise. Blogger's honor. In the meantime, enjoy the weight of a cuddly, snugly baby drifting off to sleep in your arms. Because there really is nothing nicer. 
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Friday, January 2, 2015

Six Popular New Year's Resolutions I'm NOT Making and One I Am.

Since it's the New Year, I did a very thorough and scientific study (ie. I read a few articles on the Internet) about the most common New Year's resolutions. Normally I don't make New Year's resolutions.  It's just not my thing and it always seemed to me that the New Year should start in September (when school starts) rather than January. If I ever become President, I'm changing the New Year to September...just wait and see. 

Anyway, since EVERYONE ELSE is making resolutions, I'd figure I'd look at a few and see if I should make those or not. 

Mostly I'm not...but one I am.


1. I'm NOT resolving to lose weight.

You can read here about why I'm NOT trying to lose weight even though I'm overweight. 

2. I'm NOT resolving to travel to new places.

I'm not a huge fan of travel as it is.  And, I've done a lot of moving in my life so I've seen a lot of places (in the United States) and I don't have a real strong desire to see more. In fact, I'd love to resolve to never move again..but that's a resolution that's just begging to be broken.  So, I'm not doing it.

3. I'm NOT resolving to get a better job.

I already have the best job...with cute bosses. 

4. I'm NOT resolving to drink less.




Actually I'm resolving to drink more. Just kidding.  I don't drink really...but I keep thinking I should. I mean, I don't smoke, I don't drink, I don't really watch TV and I eat healthy.  A girl's gotta have SOME vice.  Oh wait..I do love me some chocolate.  Although I keep telling my husband that I need to find a non-fattening, non-health-destroying vice to take up. Anyone know of any?  Is Facebook considered a vice?  If so, I guess I already have one.

5. I'm NOT resolving to enjoy life to the fullest.

Because I think that sounds like a pretty self-centered resolution.  The biggest goal in life is not enjoyment. 

6. I'm NOT resolving to get organized.

Although I probably should.  Although truth be told, I'm fairly organized right now.  I'm NOT neat..but I'm organized.  I KNOW where everything is.  And, I KNOW all the things I need to do and places I need to be.  I almost never forget things.  So while my house is a mess, I'm still fairly organized.

I did the Saint Name Generator and got St. Zita...the patron saint of losing keys and lost keys.  Seriously..her patron saint list mentions lost keys TWICE. I think it got the year wrong however.  2004 was the year of losing keys for me.  That was the year that Greta was born and I was just a bit scatterbrained. Twice I left my keys on top of the car or in the passenger side door while my husband drove off. 

Then I learned a quick trick to make sure it NEVER happens again. It's easy. Don't lock your car doors.  Works every time.  If you don't have to take the keys out to unlock, there is ZERO chance of leaving them in the door or on top of the car while your husband drives off. Of course, someone might steal your car...but at least you'll still have your keys. And really, no one would steal our cars. They aren't steal-worthy....as probably evidenced by the fact that we still need to unlock them by hand instead of with a remote unlocker thingy.  

And the one New Year's Resolution I AM making.

7. I'm resolving to help other people more.

I was rather pleasantly surprised to find this on the list of common New Year's resolutions. Helping others is always a wonderful thing and I know that I could definitely do MORE of it. So I AM going to try to help others more...my family, my friends, even strangers.  I WANT to be that person who spreads happiness and joy...who can easily talk to strangers and is always thinking of other people.  Unfortunately I'm not like that...but I have hope that I COULD be more like that. Maybe.  

What about you...do you have any New Year's Resolutions?  And, if I become President, are you with me on moving the New Year to September?

If you want to read more quick takes...visit Kelly

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Tuesday, December 30, 2014

How to Have a Happy Marriage - a Quiz

It's our 14th wedding anniversary today! So that makes me a marriage expert, right? 



Wrong..but it certainly qualifies me to write a fun marriage quiz.  Because we all love quizzes.  And I HAVE managed to stay (mostly) happily married for 14 years...despite plenty of poorer and not so much richer.   


1.  If your wife asks you for marital tips you should.
     a. ignore her
     b. say the wife is always right
     c. give some romantic answer
     d. suddenly go find something to clean

2. If you see a job that needs to be done you should
     a. do it
     b. wait for your spouse to do it
     c. nag your spouse to do it
     d. spend an hour discussing who should do the job and whose turn it is, blah, blah, blah

3. If your spouse makes dinner and you hate it you should 
    a. thank him/her and tell him/her it looks and tastes great
    b. check for arsenic 
    c. eat a little bit and them make yourself peanut butter and jelly
    d. offer to make dinner the next night 

5. If you spouse isn't answering their cell phone you should.
    a. freak out and convince yourself they are dead somewhere
    b. call them repeatedly
    c. assume the worst
    d. take a deep breath and assume the best 

    a. yes
    b. no  

7. You like to roll the toothpaste and your spouse is a squeezer.  You should
   a. insist he/she does it your way
   b. just get your own rolls of toothpaste and don't worry about it.

8. Your wife buys too many vitamins.  Should you
   a. yell at her
   b. confiscate her credit card
   c. accept the fact that she is a crunchy, weirdo freak and even take the vitamins she gives you
   d. let her buy them but refuse to take them

9. Time are tough.  Should you
   a. take it out on each other
   b. take it out on the kids
   c. take up a bad habit (like Diet Coke)
   d. pray more

10. Are weekly date nights without the kids vital for a happy marriage.
   a. yes
   b. no...you can have a date in
   c. spending time together is important..doesn't have to be an "actual date"
   d. b and c but if you like a and have lots of babysitting, good for you 

11.  The most important characteristic of a happy marriage is:
   a. unselfishness
   b. unselfishness
   c. unselfishness
   d. unselfishness

Answers: I'm not telling.  You figure it out. 

Actually some of these could have more than one answer.  Some of them. Every marriage is different because all people are different. What works for one couple may not work for another.    

As long as you can get question 11 right, you probably can't go wrong.  And that's an easy question. 

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Monday, December 29, 2014

Top Ten Most Popular Posts of 2014

Everyone who is anyone is posting their top posts of 2014.  I'm not usually a band-wagon jumper unless I love the bandwagon.  And this one I do.  So I'm going with it. 

Here are my top ten most popular posts of 2014.  Keep in mind I'm using popular in the loosest sense of the word...since I have never been popular and likely never will be.

10.




I'm not quite sure why this post made the list, but apparently you all liked it. Or maybe it was just picked up by the spam bots. Either way, it eeked in at number 10. 

9.



This is the second of the homeschooling posts that made the list.  Apparently you all like to read about homeschooling.  It's okay...I do too.

8.



How-to and general advice posts seem to be fairly popular.  This one was very common-sense but I hope it still helped someone.

7.


How To Respect Your Children While Using Social Media

I thought this was a very important post to write..and it's something I'm always thinking about as I blog and use Facebook. I don't even have Instagram...but the amazing popularity of it makes me wonder about how today's kids are going to feel about their entire childhood being splashed on Instagram?

6.



This was definitely the most controversial post.  But then anything that mentions vaccines always is.

5.




Body image seems to be another popular topic.  I think I need to write more about that. I think it's a topic that resonates with a lot of women and I'm sure my blog readers are mostly women. Although, I'm not savvy enough to figure out those stats.

4.



How Posting What I Wore Each Sunday Healed Me

The second of my two popular body image posts...this was probably my most personal post ever.  Which likely makes it one of the best.

3.



My other super popular homeschooling post.  Looks like a bunch of you were glad to learn all the things you don't need.

2.




Any sort of I changed my mind post is always fun!

1.


Modesty - Let Me Tell You How to Dress

Last but not least...my most popular post about the ever popular topic of modesty!

So looking at this list, it looks like I need to write about body image and homeschooling a bit more.  With some more I changed my mind stuff thrown in.  Now I just need to find something to change my mind one. 

Merry Christmas Everyone!  And Happy New Year!!

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